I went to surprise my husband at the hospital with his lunch. His colleague looked at me with tears in his eyes and said: “He hasn’t told you anything, has he?”

about that for a bit and then she said: that’s all right then.

Eight years old, and she took the answer and put it away and went to sleep, because that is what we had trained her to do with that answer.

Some nights he did not come home at all.

We’re short-staffed, love. Don’t wait up.

And whenever he finally got into bed he looked so wrecked that I swallowed every single thing I had been saving up all week.

Once I woke at about three and he was sitting on the edge of the mattress with his back to me, and his shoulders were going.

I said: Soren?

He wiped his face before he turned round. I remember the sound of it, his palm on his face, before I saw anything.

He said: rough night. Go back to sleep.

And I did.

I want that on the page